Tuesday, September 2, 2008

And So It Goes....

And so it goes, as most good things do, the last days of summer have drawn to a close and with them the big brother and the little brother return to school. We drove big brother up to school yesterday and unloaded two cars full of his dorm needs. This year, however, as a sophomore he has a dorm suite, with five friends. This is just another word for a small apartment, as it is amazing! Their front door opens onto the common green area, and as this is a sophomore only housing area, everyone is the same age and same year. I told Pa Teakettle that I want to go college too. I can just imagine what it's going to look like when fall rolls around and with it comes the changing of the leaves. Glorious indeed. He spent his summer building a gaming computer from scratch, Pa and I sat back and watched with wonder and awe as he learned an important life lesson, that small steps lead to something big and with that knowledge comes the ability to build your dreams in this life. Little brother drove himself to school today, with barely a look back, as he puled slowly out of the driveway. He has always been my free spirited and adventurous one, with the heart of an explorer, so it is no surprise that he and his car have been busy these past couple weeks. He made some tough decisions this summer, and we watched him grow in the process, and learn an important life lesson which is, that just because men are put into positions of leadership, does not mean that they deserve it. He has walked away from football with his warriors heart and pride intact, and he did it with more honesty and maturity than the adults inolved, no easy feet for a kid. So, as life moves on so do the Teakettle boys, but I wouldn't have it any other way. I have always believed that raising a child with the love and security that allows them to develop the ability to leave the nest is primarily the parent's responsibility, and to be able to see your child become a fully functioning young adult is beyond compare. It is, however, a double edged sword because with the pride and satisfaction that comes with watching your little birds spread their wings and leave the nest, also comes the sadness and realization that, even though they will return to the nest, it will never again be the same. But, I take heart, because even though the nest may be getting emptier as the years go by, the spot where your little babes were will not be forever empty, just temporarily vacant. The children will come and go but each time they return it will be with a new gift, sometimes it's a wonderful story of their adventures, sometimes it's a new tool of knowledge, and sometimes it's with a wound of the heart or soul, that needs a parent's special touch to heal. My birds always bring with them something that we, as a family, use to continue weaving our family nest, for that is how the nest stays alive, with the threads of life that it's members bring back from their journeys into the world. This continues until the day the baby birds begin their own family life and together with their baby birds continue the weaving of their own family nest. The weaving of a family nest, in my opinion is the true circle of life, and that is why I believe, that bird's nests are always round.

Congratulations! Today is your day. You're off to Great Places! You're off and away!

You have brains in your head. You have feet in your shoes You can steer yourself any direction you choose. You're on your own. And you know what you know. And YOU are the guy who'll decide where to go.

An excerpt from "Oh. The Places You'll Go" by Dr. Seuss

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